I've had a good day and even bad weeks of anxiety aren't too bad

 After 3 weeks off choir was really good to be back this week, my anxiety around food and social anxiety hadn't been great this week and it showed more at the group therapy I go too, I hate when I go quiet and emotional but I think food impacted my mood alot so need to use my "wise mind" rather than emotional one, but choir helped alot this week as it gives me a positive focus and I feel connected with everyone, we are singing really uplifting songs which is great for January blues.

Today I met a friend who I last saw in November which was nice we had tea at Costa and exchanged Christmas presents and said we need to try meet more regularly this year even if once a month and then met a family friend who my mum used to work for she's an older lady who has known me since I was about 8, we got talking for about 3 hours and laughed about how quiet I was when I was younger and didn't hardly talk lol. I don't think I had seen her for a couple of years due to the pandemic and she said she noticed a difference for the better in me with my positivity which was good I feel I am moving forward....life isn't where I want it but its a long way from where it was. I have an interview for a volunteer befriender next Wednesday which I'm looking forward to and am teaching on a pony party at the weekend and singing with choir at the weekend. 

One thing I get down about is overanalysing relationships/ friendships but need to just take each day as it comes, people get busy, it's not personal if they don't talk to me alot and I do enjoy time with friends when I do see them. I think in lockdown more people had time but life has got busy again but I need to plan things to look forward to and goals which I am trying to achieve.....





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